Why is setting time aside for ourselves so incredibly hard? It doesn’t matter what stage of life we are in but we all need to replenish our souls. For me, I need to time reading quietly, praying, listening to music and walking my dog under the stars. When I crowd my life with only details of a busy day, it’s almost as I don’t have the space to get anything done well. This not usually a pretty situation. The way I end up giving to people becomes rushed, forced and sometimes less quality than what I really want. The way you get down time may be totally different but I know you feel me and most likely need it.
When I miss my time, the gunk comes out when I least expect it. I recently had the kind of week where there was no time to breathe. One evening, I captured a few quiet moments to shut my eyes and daydream while planning the next few days. Then Jeremy and I had an everyday conversation. I forget what he even said but I just short circuited and got upset with his opinion. (Sorry, honey. I completely forget what it was about or I’d show how irrational I was in that moment.) It wasn’t what he said that I was troubled by, it was that I had no room left to engage with him. The most important person in my life got the brunt of my business. I could fill this page with a list of moments that my 3 darlings have felt the ramification of this problem.
Jeremy and I try to wake up earlier to have our personal alone time. Note the word try. I need to listen to that alarm and get my behind out of bed. Snooze is not my friend. Those moments of refueling are necessary. A calmness and peace always result in those moments. I never regret getting up to read and meditate on what God is sharing with me over my cup of coffee. I always regret not doing it. Always. By taking time out to hear His voice, everything that does not matter fades away. I sincerely get clarity of His purpose for me. My priorities get shifted and I see what is before me that day in a different way.
Whether this time of life gives you 5 minutes or an hour, make time for yourself time to create the space. It’s going to look different for everyone. When my kids were little, I took a longer shower and that was what I needed and some days all I could get. Now I can take 20 minutes in the morning for reading. If I’m on it, I might even get tabata workout in. I try to end the day with a walk around the neighborhood staring at the stars. Do what you can. Find out what you need to get that replenishment. Ask a friend to help, if needed. I promise you will be glad you did.
Disclaimer: Stop using the snooze button. The weekends are my only exception because there is nothing better than sleeping in. I try to do that as long as my kids let me or until a German Shorthair Pointer sits on my face.